Earlier this month, I quietly celebrated the six month anniversary since I re-branded my online business and launched this blog. Originally, I had planned on adding a new feature at six months in, but I missed the actual date (3/8). So, it was just a moment of pause with a sip of bubbly kombucha (no champagne in the fridge -- note to self, keep a bottle of champagne in the fridge) to reflect on the journey so far.
I think it is important to celebrate the little things in life, and then I realized, in blogging years, six months is actually a long time. A lot has happened and I want to share with you what I've learned along the way so far.
Discernment. I am one of those who wants to do all the things, but with my tight schedule, not getting to do it all often leads to frustration and discontent. Before I launched, I dedicated an entire lunar cycle (part of the Manifesting with the Moon eCourse) to getting really clear on what I want to do with the blog. I made a list of ALL THE THINGS I envisioned for my blog in the year ahead, manically throwing it all out there... then I was able to revisit the list and take the top three that sounded like the most fun for me (because I don't want it to feel like work...what's the point? I work in a 9 - 5 job and that is enough for me, thank you very much! I want my blog to feel fun, to bring me joy -- and it does!)
Vulnerability. To paraphrase, "Blogging is easy. You just have to open your laptop and bleed." I've been a semi-secret blogger for years. AND...I just experienced an intensely vulnerable moment in sharing that link with you. I used to be very open with my experiences, opinions, what-nots... and I used to blog about everything... But over the past 10 or so years, I've waffled about how much is too much to share...and I have to ask myself, "who I am really serving with what I have to share?" This has been great training ground, however, for aligning my beliefs, my online business and my desire to share with the world. When it comes together in a perfect harmony, it's a beautiful thing. My goal is to continually strive for that convergence of being of service to my clients, offering my readers valuable content and feeling good about the work I produce. Vulnerability is the crux of it all.
But seriously. Blogging is easy and anyone can do it.
Heart-and-soul business + life blogging, however, requires you to have a compelling message and delivery strategy. And to do it well, you also have to make the commitment to show up consistently. This can be a challenge when you have a 9 - 5 job, or a family who likes to eat warm dinners and appreciates clean laundry, or if you happen to lead a woman's soul circle in addition to all of your other commitments and obligations.
The cool thing is that you set the schedule. You decide what appearances are most important. And you can choose to say no to whatever does not serve you, whether that is saying no to letting the laundry pile up for another day, or saying no to one more speaking engagement...
Having said that, I also believe wholeheartedly that if you say you are going to do something, you should do it. This is true in blogging as much as it is in life. Every time you follow through with your commitment, it is like strength training for your willpower. It builds trust -- in yourself and between you and your audience. People can rely on you and learn to trust what you have to say. If or when you don't happen to show up, then they genuinely care and want to know if everything is ok. NEVER take that for granted!
Running an online business and being a blogger is fertile ground for success envy! It may seem like everyone else is so successful with their pretty WordPress blog templates, their massive followings and their fun and inspiring digital products and eCourses. But the truth is that they all started out in the same place as you did.
A few years back, Malcom Gladwell wrote Outliers: The Story of Success, in which he posits it takes 10,000 hours of practice in any field before one achieves mastery. In the world of blogging, this number is significantly smaller, approximately 500 posts before you find your true, consistent style and voice (though, in actuality it may take one 10K hours to produce 500 QUALITY posts, so....)
I think of bloggers like Gala Darling and Susannah Conway and how much I adore their blogs. It is so easy to fall into that trap of comparison and subsequent envy. What I have to remind myself, however, is that these women have been blogging for years!
I'm just getting started here, but I have learned to take it in stride and apply these simple rules when I feel I've fallen into the comparison trap:
1. Acknowledge your envious feelings!
2. Soften into gratitude
3. Find evidence of abundance!
4. Gain some perspective! What looks like success to you may not feel like success to others...in fact, others may be looking at you wondering how you are able to pull it off like you do!
5. Compliment the person you are jealous of...
In a nutshell, these are the things I've integrated over the past six months on this journey. I hope it has been of service to you, and if you have any other tips for being a heart & soul blogger and online entrepreneur, please share them in the comments below!
My name is Dawn Champine and I am the Creatrix of The Goddess Diaries. I am very passionate about helping women remember their REAL GODDESS selves.