Calling all Priestesses! Do you long to create connection with your women friends? Do you long to share in the magic that is the new moon and full moon with other women? This is a two part series on how to start your own Goddess Circle. In part one, I shared tips for creating a virtual circle. In part two (this post), I share tips on the logistics of creating an IRL (In Real Life) Goddess Circle.
For far too long, our culture has deprived women of communing in nurturing, nourishing sacred circles, fearful of what this kind of energy would do to patriarchal structures. But women are re-awakening to our ancient wisdom, remembering the healing power of the divine feminine energy that is raised each time we circle together.
Do you belong to a goddess circle? Do you long to nourish your soul in the shared and sacred space of other conscious women? Here is what I have learned over the past few years on the *logistics* of starting your own Goddess Circle. May it serve you and your community of awakening Goddesses.
Clarify your intent. What is the purpose of your Goddess Circle? Is it to gather friends together and celebrate one another? (There is profound healing in this!) Is your intent to offer a safe space for women in your community to connect with each other? Is it because you are answering a calling to provide your healing services to other women? Will your circle serve the spiritual needs of women in your community? Asking these clarifying questions makes for a better group experience. For instance, there is nothing wrong with calling women together to listen to you espouse your expertise on a topic once a month, so long as everyone is aware and in agreement with this intention. Clearing out unnecessary assumptions, biases and projections keeps the connections pure.
Decide when you will meet. Once a month? Every other week? First Tuesdays? Full moon? New Moon? And if you are planning by the moon phases, do you understand how the different phases each lend a different vibe? Play around with the timing and see for yourself how the moon can influence your gathering. Host a full moon gathering one month and a new moon circle the next and note the energetic differences.
Decide where you will meet. Lucky is she with a dedicated space to meet, be it an event center, a public park, or her own backyard! Er, that is, if you are brave enough to open up your home! Of course, this is entirely up to you. In the beginning, I hosted Goddess Circle at my house, but we eventually outgrew my living room as more women would join the circle each month. Aside from these space issues, I began to worry about the safety of posting my address on my meetup page. It is also wise to consider your personal safety when inviting complete strangers into your home. Now my group meets every month at the Soul Spa, a local Reiki and Energy Healing Center I co-founded.
How will you call your sisters to the circle? I use meetup.com, which is a great resource for creating all kinds of IRL (In Real Life) events. It does cost about $150 per year, though, so if you don't want to incur that expense, I recommend services like EventBrite (free for free events) or even Facebook's event scheduler. (A word about sharing events on Facebook...do not, I repeat, DO NOT tag your friends without their permission. This is not only desperately tacky, but it could be embarrassing to anyone who is not yet "out of the closet" in regards to her spiritual practice.)
Food and drink. Who provides? Some of the most magical events have been potluck offerings, where everyone brings a small appetizer or drink to the event.
Personal Items. Invite participants to bring their favorite essential oils, crystals and herbs or other personal token for magic making.**
Set the sacred space. Make the space warm and inviting! You can really get creative here, with "red tent" themed decor, or a tea party theme, or just some simple flowers, twinkle lights, candles and pillows. One of my favorite Goddess Circles was an early summer lawn party where I brought the couch into the backyard and created a boho chic atmosphere with feathers, flowers, candles and oracle cards. I've also been to a tee-pee circle in the middle of the mountains, under the starlight, with a wood stump that acted as an **altar space. Another memorable experience was when a group of friends and I enjoyed a "winter wonderland" circle by the bonfire, in the snow under the moonlight. The point is this: the energy you put into creating a welcoming space elevates it from a mere "event" to an EXPERIENCE. Setting the tone lets everyone know before she steps foot into the circle that you really care about her.
**A word about altar space. Altars are energetic focal points that serve as an anchor for our intentions. I invite participants to bring something of significance to each circle gathering, whether it is a favorite crystal, a picture, flower or a piece of jewelry, to place upon the altar during our time together. The intention here is that, as we raise energy within the group, these objects create an energetic grid that harnesses our intentions and is infused with our magic once the circle ends. Women are free to use the object as a sacred reminder of their transformation. Other times we might destroy an object that serves as a representation of something we wish to let go of in our lives, and if that is the case, everyone is advised in advance to bring something they wish to release.
Group Etiquette: Your circle is a space where women want to be witnessed, heard, valued. It is good to start each circle with these reminders, letting each other know this is a safe space where women are encouraged to share as they feel called to, in "perfect love and perfect trust."
Order of events: It is wise to have an itinerary of events, even if it is "in your head." Most circles follow a basic format of setting sacred space, declaring intent, evoking energies, circle work, declaration of transformation, release and opening circle. For instance, at my local circle, we meet at 7 p.m. with a half hour dedicated to checking in and saying hello. Beginning promptly at 7:30, we circle up and settle into our space, fully arriving in the circle and ready for the work to be done. The "work" takes any where from an hour to two, depending on the number of participants and activities planned. Circle work is often intuitive and based on the needs of the group. It is ancient, coming to us from the cellular/soul-ular level. It is sacred, because we say it is so. Activities could be anything from talking circles, elemental healing, shamanic drum circles, releasing or manifesting...all of it is par for the course, but it really all depends on the intentions and the energy of the group.
After our deep soul work, we nosh on goodies and drink our wine (or beverage of choice) and usually will linger for another half hour or so before saying our goodbyes.
Follow Up: As with any event, you want to reach out to the participant individually and thank them for coming. This could be as simple as a text message or phone call. Services like meetup.com make it easy to do this with it's event rating feature. During the call, I recommend asking her what her favorite part of the experience was, whether she enjoyed the event and if the circle met her needs. Also, this is a good time to remind her of any upcoming events.
Be Sure to Read Part 1 in this Series:
How To Start A Virtual Goddess Circle
My name is Dawn Champine and I am the Creatrix of The Goddess Diaries. I am very passionate about helping women remember their REAL GODDESS selves.
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