So we are nearly half way through 2015 and I wanted to talk about something that has been rocking my world. Last year, my fiance gave me the Desire Map Day Planner for Christmas. For those who don't know, the Desire Map Day Planner was created by Danielle LaPorte. Here is the description from her product page:
“I’m going to say something a bit audacious and salesy-sounding. Here goes: The Evergreen Desire Map Day Planner could totally uplift your life. Because being mindful, reflective, honest, optimistic, on time, and at least a bit organized — is a daily deal. The inspired and “together” life you dream of has got to have practical applications. This is it. A Day Planner that incorporates your soul and your to-do list; your core desired feelings and your goals; your gratitude and your plans for change.
Before the Desire Map Day Planner, I had been using the Covey time management system (a system popular with corporate executives) which instilled in me that crossing off tasks from my to-do list meant I was getting shit done. At the same time, though, I felt a gaping disconnect from the rest of my daily rituals because the Covey planner is not very conducive to recording the more magical parts of life (i.e. my morning pages, moon meditation "downloads" or my daily oracle card draw.) It was (and is) simply a linear fashion of time management.
When I sat down for the first time back in January to begin using my Desire Map Day Planner, it seems the pendulum had swung in the exact opposite direction. The Desire Map system is not about time management at all, but about FEELING management, and I admit I became perplexed trying to figure out where to pencil in my task lists. There were no slots for appointments. There were no to-do lists or reminders to "do" anything, really, other than space to check in each day with your Core Desired Feelings.
I didn't want to give the impression to my fiance that I was ungrateful for his gift, so I hunkered down and tried to figure out how to make it work. Those first few weeks were brutal, but by about February, I had found my groove. The beauty of the Desire Map planner is the ease with which you can truly make it your own.
In the Covey system, the objective is to cross things off a list and be done. The Desire Map planner, however, is more fluid, and I find I repeat actions from day to day that help me to generate the good vibes all week long. This is brilliant because it actually lends to the ritual of forming good habits -- and it was in this kind of "DOING" that I realized the grand paradox: When you CONSISTENTLY PRACTICE generating your Core Desired Feelings, you get more of what really matters done!
The layout is simple, with a monthly calendar where you can forecast the weeks ahead, and then each day of the week has its own page on which you can record your CDF's at the top, some blank lines for (whatever...) and then space*** to make notes under each major life section, which are:
Livelihood & Lifestyle (your money and other tangible resources)
Body & Wellness (exercise, food, nutrition)
Creativity & Learning (self-explanatory)
Relationships & Society (self-explanatory)
Essence & Spirituality (soul cravings, oracle draws, animal messages)
***With each morning Desire Map ritual, this is the space where I record the ways in which I can generate my CDFs in each of these areas.
Throughout the daily pages, significant astrological data is printed on the day it is occurring, and it is here where I write in the moon energy of the day. Tracking moon energy is such an important part to my day-to-day practice, and I appreciate knowing the other cosmic influences, as appropriate, too.
There is a great yearly astrological forecast, written by Anne Ortelee, at the back that has, for the most part, been the most accurately written general forecast I have read, ever. I like to refer to this page every now and again and either recap or plan ahead.
I especially dig the weekly recap where every Sunday is devoted to the practice of reflecting on the previous week. This really helps to see where you have been or are most "on fire" with your CDFs.
The month in review takes this reflection to a deeper level. Here you pause with your annual "goals with soul," do a quick recap of how to generate your CDFs in the major life areas and have more space to write about your success AND your failures. This last part is probably the most important part of the whole process --indeed, the whole book! There is a certain kind of magic in reflecting on your failures. It allows you to honor the missteps as an integral part of your journey, and instead of burying it in shame, you can kindly put your failure to rest without risking the chance it will crop up again. Not to dwell on the negative, but to be wholly integrated, authentically striving toward success.
In about a month, I will hit the "mid-year" review section that calls for a PAUSE to assess the year in review so far, and the rest of the year ahead. "Are you on track with how you really want to feel? What are you doing that takes you away from your CDFs? What can you do more of that inspires your CDFs?"
Another really cool thing? I have been spooked on more than one occasion by the daily affirmation along the bottom of the page. It is really eerie-cool how often that message has been spot-on with the energetic vibe of my day, almost like an oracle in and of itself!
Devotion to this process is an exercise in clarity. For instance, I discovered that my CDFs have evolved and shifted. When I completed the Desire Mapping process back in December, I narrowed my Core Desired Feelings down to these: Courageous, Valued, Sexy, Abundant.
But over the past few months, feeling "valued" no longer resonates as a top CDF for me because, in doing these daily exercises, I have come to realize I AM valued. I DO value myself. I FEEL valued in all major life areas.
However, what I do deeply long for in more than one major area of my life is "wild grace." Armed with this clarity, my morning devotional starts with these questions: "What does wild grace mean in each major life area? Am I graceful with myself? Where am I forcing things? What can I ease up on to make things flow more fluidly, more gracefully? How do I show grace to others?" To me, a recovering perfectionist, wild grace has skyrocketed to the top of the list.
Now, with the new system, my morning rituals seem to unfold in a natural progression that is more meaningful. I wake up before the rest of the household and pour myself a cup of tea and breathe. Then, I pull out my oracle or tarot deck of choice for a daily draw. I open my Desire Map Day Planner to the appropriate day. I feel into each major life area, and visualize myself in actions that generate my CDF's for the day ahead. And this has made all the difference.
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My name is Dawn Champine and I am the Creatrix of The Goddess Diaries. I am very passionate about helping women remember their REAL GODDESS selves.